Power of Attorney

imagesHi this is Anthony Diaz with Rosa’s Chante Assited Living and today I want to share with you some information people ask me a great deal about. That is Power of Attorney (POA). It is not something that you think of right off the bat when you become a caregiver because first and foremost you are concerned about your loved ones health and well-being. Yet it is vital to understand though that money does eventually becomes an issue because as your elderly loved one will most likely be unable to sort out their own affairs and finances, or mentally be unfit to do so.

In order to take care of these financial affairs, you will first need to apply for and be granted power of attorney (POA). Today, because of fraud and security issues, privacy laws are created so that no one can interfere in the financial affairs of another unless they have permission by the individual in some way, shape or form. If you do need regular access to their finances to pay medical, or for their homecare, or whatever else they may need, then you will need power of attorney (POA).

There are two types of power of attorney, ordinary and enduring. The ordinary power of attorney limits your access because it stipulates the matters that you can actually control. For example, your elderly relative may only allow you to sort out bills for them. It is also commonly used when an individual is unable to manage their affairs for a set period of time. The fact that this is for a set period of time means that it will inevitably expire and thus is not a good option for elderly individuals who may permanently be unable to take care of their finances.

An enduring power of attorney, on the other hand, grants you access to every aspect of their assets. You can effectively run their finances, govern their property and do pretty much as you please with everything they own. As a result, this requires a lot of trust on the part of your relative and you must feel that you are up to the job before accepting the power of attorney. It can actually be established at any time, even if the elderly individual in question is still capable of running his or her affairs, but it does continue if mental capacity is diminished.

It is a huge responsibility to be put in charge of somebody else’s financial affairs, especially if the individual in question is also under your care. It can cause a lot of stress for you, especially when you are getting to grips with it all. You must go to a lawyer to establish the power of attorney in the first place, and so he or she may be able to advise you on where to begin.

Getting to Know Adult Care Homes

house frontAdult care homes provide room and board and care. In some ways, it can be like assisted living facilities, however, it is smaller and a more personal setting. Assisted living does focus on active social opportunities, adult care homes specialize in more hands-on care and personal attention. The level of care and focus varies and many care homes specialize by design and staffing to attend people with memory care issues such as Alzheimer’s and dementia.

Depending on residents’ needs, adult care homes provide family-style meals, supervision, assistance with medications and Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) and social activities. Most care homes offer private/semi private rooms and 24-hour personalized care. Some homes, like Rosa’s Chante, specialize in dementia and mental health issues while trying to work with their residents and do public outreach to those who need educating.

It is a tough decision to decide whether to place your loved one in an adult care home. Make sure you do the research. Here at Rosa’s we are about to offer a 50 page booklet and aging, caregiving, and what to look for. Whether you select our home, or any other home, we want you to feel educated. That is part of our promise as a small community business, to offer you insight and help you make decisions that are conducive to you and your family’s needs.

When evaluating an adult care home for your loved one, make sure you research the provider’s credentials and background. Also try to observe if they are kind and compassionate individuals, when people are aging, that goes a very long way. Be sure they provide a true family environment in a residential neighborhood. One last tip for you, be sure you are invited to take a tour and see firsthand how the home is.

We here at Rosa’s want to be sure you are making the correct decision for your family, not because we want your business, more so we want to make sure our aging community is healthy and happy.

Communication Problems and Elderly

logo1Hi, this is Anthony Diaz at Rosa’s Chante Assisted Living. If you are caregiving a family member you know there are major changes happening in everyone’s life. Your elderly parents or relatives are now seniors and require a lot of understanding. Communication may at times be difficult. There are many reasons why it can be hard to communicate with the elderly. Dementia, Alzheimer’s and strokes can be some of the major reasons.

Other reasons it can be so difficult to communicate is that it is hard for elderly parents to give up their independence. They find it awkward to rely on their children. They may be somewhat uncomfortable to talk about daily personal care issues or sensitive subjects. Here is where you need to have patience and try to understand what they are going through.

There are positive ways to deal with better communication with the people you are caregiving. First, remember to respect the person you are caregiving. Often it is your parents and they deserve respect which also means treating them as equals. Make sure you know that their opinions have value. In addition to respecting them make sure you listen and that you are aware of what they are trying to say.

Try to think before responding to the person you are caregiving. Don’t speak when you’re angry or upset. Silence is effective. Take time to think before starting a potentially difficult conversation. Practice patience. You may also want to develop an appropriate speaking style and body language. How you speak is just as important as what you say. Maintain eye contact and try to be positive and brief.

If you want to have positive communication with the people you are caregiving, then give them your attention. Leave your cell phone somewhere else, respect the person you are caregiving. Give them your undivided attention. They will respect you a little more and communication can be easier. You may even want to ask them for THEIR advice. Making them feel like they matter can open the communication lines.

Finally listen to what they are saying. You don’t always know what is best. Just because they are old doesn’t mean they don’t have something valuable to say. Give them the respect. It is difficult for them as well and remember that positive communication it is important that both parties have to feel that they have benefited from the outcome.

Please feel free to call and visit Rosa’s Chante to see if we can help you care for your loved one.